Friendship Tree of Life

“Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.” Proverbs 13:12 (New International Version)

May of 1995 marked a turning point in my life. Literally. I learned to do a perfect pageant turn and wave – step, pivot, step, pivot, Vaseline smile…wave, my arm floating softly through the air from side to side like the leaves of a Del Mar palm. And…it was the beginning of some of the most treasured friendships I have had in my lifetime.

We met at the 50th anniversary Fairest of the Fair pageant as Miss Chula Vista, Miss Escondido, Miss El Cajon, and Miss La Mesa. Though none of us was crowned that night as Miss San Diego County, we won something more valuable than the glamour of that moment – true connection. A longing fulfilled.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 talks about the value of a friend. “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up. Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; but how can one be warm alone? Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

In our case, it’s a fourfold cord ornately woven together through triumph and tragedy, paradise and pain. We have watched each other’s babies come into the world and stood beside one another as marriages crumbled. We have held each other through countless challenging moments, listened and laughed, loved each other’s families as though they were our own, tattooed our bodies together, driven and flown miles to get a little face time, and offered words of affirmation and encouragement as life’s moments warranted.

This past weekend was just such an occasion of togetherness – a friendship tree of life. Golden, Colorado Girls Weekend 2019. My heart is full.

We were created for relationship, for friendship. Friendship with God and others. It is a heavenly whisper that we are not alone. “Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends” (John 15:13, NKJV). My hope is full.  


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